~Words That Build~

Okay, so I know it has been a few days since my last post. It has been crazy!! In my learning how to be a mother of two, doing household chores, and sewing. I seem to have resently found that I am very pretty poor at encouraging people. Believe it or not, but I have found it be true. I am working on it as well, as all the other issuses in life. So, with that in mind, I took a look through my Bible and found something very helpful for me to try to walk steadily, in hopes of "not killing" people w/my lack of encouragements.

~Words That Build~ study topic

1Thessalonians 5:8-24

If others listened in on your conversations, would their lives be changed for better or worse? Would they hear you speaking about the character flaws of others as if they were phisical defects, or would they hear that you consider others beauitful in God's eyes? Ask yourself if your words build up or tear down. Do your words push others away from you or draw others near? Most important, do they draw near to God?

Just a few questions:

In what ways are you guilty of hurting others with your words?

How have you been on receiving end of end of encouraging words?

Who is someone who could use your encouragement?

Word to take with you today: Uplift

That study topic really kicked me in the backside. Just thinking how I am so, task orientated that I fail to see the people in front of me. My habit of, "Everything has a place" and "Everything needs to be Cleaned" needs to change. Just a small picture, I live here in a house w/ Ray and Ashley and four single guys. And my whole mind setting is, focused on things not being put away properly or areas in the house, being a wreck. I see the task, and not the people that God created for to be here for a reason. I could probally think of quite a few people that need encouragement from me. Hopefully I can work toward doing that more often. I hope this touches you, as it did me.

And just a small update, I have for the last few days, made it out of bed before 7am!!! Okay, so that is something big for me, and I hope I can continue

~Discerning Differences~

I just posted the most resent bible study topic of Discerning Differences in:

Learning to be A Mother

"In order to be Irreplaceable one must always be Different"

-Coco Chanel

So, you see... We want our children to irreplaceable!!!

~A weakness of mine~

        I think two of my biggest weakness points are, not one hundred percent wanting to get up as early as my husband does; and it is still a weakness of mine. And I am continually working on it. The second thing is, I am not outwardly romantic with my husband. Or maybe this should have been listed first :) I am going on three years of being married, and I still have a hard time when he wants a hug, or even to just to hold my hand. I am not sure why, but I hope I get over it fast :) So, I guess these notes are more for me; but I am hoping they will inspire other wives as well.

~Vital Discipline~

I just posted up the next study topic on "Vital Discipline",

if you care to read.

Learning what it means to be A Mother

And it has a small bit on Respect as well, will touch on that another time.

Chasah's Married Ladies Blessing

I have some notes from this past married ladies' blessing, we had for Chasah Copenhaver; (my Sister-inLaw :) Still getting used to that thought, but I like it alot!!

Notes I have taken it hopes to apply them to my life.

Pray with your husband, Remember what God has done for you.

"I'm In Love" Be in Love w/ God and your husband. "Where did you come from?" From your husband's rib, so protect his heart. Church is to Christ, Wife is to husband, Our husband will not measure up to Christ. But he is the Shadow of the Church to Christ.

Give your whole heart in being married, to your husband.

Hold onto your husband's dreams. Believe in his dreams. Show belief through your eyes.

The wife is the help mate, not the leader. In following your husband, he will make you beautiful. Hold their heart and don't hurt it.

Do not loose the sense of fun you have with your husband.

Pray for your husband.

Remember your first love, it's easy to forget, lots of distractions. We want to get answers from our husbands instead of God.

Marriage is like a cup of coffee. First thing, you put in sugar - commitment (sweet), coffee - trials (bittersweet), difficult - ask for grace. Cream is the grace to go through the adventure. Power is perfected in weakness.

Main character, conflict, rising actions, complications, climax, falling action. (I am not really sure how to explain this one. Think of the graphline on charting contractions.)

• Handy Guide for the married man. "Dangerous", "Safer",  "Safest". (If you want more insight, comment or email, and I will try and get a copy.)

• Encourage your husband and listen to him. A wife can be there for her husband; even if she did not complete what he wanted.

•  *Our lives take a long time to get completed. Even when you think everthing is going just fine, God continually works on you. Likened unto road construction :) Follow your husband as he follows God.

Live in the Moment! Don't miss the moments. Take a sunrise or sunset for example, if you do not stay there; you will have missed a beautiful moment.

Lay up your treasures...in Heaven. (If you get a chance, you should read; Knowing the Heart of God by George McDonald.)

Obtain your relationship through God.

Leave notes for your husband.

Okay with that in mind, I would like to add a few more complex things to this list.

1 Cor. 11:3-7 - God does like for the Man's head to be covered. We try to make our men to walk before God with his head covered.

Matt. 21:18-22 - The fig tree withers.

Christ built the Church on the one that denies Him.

God will give your husband the strenght to not deny him again.

Your husband is exactly where God wants him to be.

It is the one who has endure to the end, and he will be saved.

Endure to the End.

~Your Husband~

I have posted a few things, of taking care of your husband. In which I am still learning to do.

I am not perfect by no means, but I am striving to be better :)

Learning what it means to be A Wife

~Mother Teresa~

Some of my favorite quotes of Mother Teresa.

• (This especially when I was Single) The path of loving trust means; to look to Him alone as our help and protector.

• The fullness of our heart comes in our actions.

• Give of your hands to serve, and your hearts to love.

• Love in order to survive, must be nourished by sacrifices, especially the sacrifice of self.

• The love you put into the Giving/Serving is the Most Important thing.

• You may be exhausted with work, you may even kill yourself, but unless your work is interwoven with love, it is useless.

• To work with out love is slavery.

• Sacrifice and prayer complement each other. There is no prayer with out sacrifice, and no sacrifice with out prayer.

~Reality Check~

The Character-Centered Parents' Priority List

God

Husband/Wife

Children

Others

Self

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Character-centered parents put God first, then their marriage, children, others, and finally themselves.

We all have our priorities, whether we're conscious of them or not. The decisions you make reveal your priorities. The consequences of your decisions either bring the devastation or preservation of your family.

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Reality Check

What category of parenting best describes you?

• Parent-Centered? - Intense need for their children to be perfect. Often persist in pushing their children to be number one. As a result their parenting choices are not about helping their children become all they are meant to be, but about filing the parent's own need for recognition.

• Child-Centered? - Children in a child-centered home are allowed to make decisions their parents should be making, the parents being more concerned with their children's approval than their well-being. Child-centered parents often get caught in the indulgence trap: you give your children enough and expect them to appreciate all you have done, in return being wonderful and respectful children, because you satisfied their desires. The trap will leave you and your children drained and emptied.

• Character-Centered? - The parents have their priorities in proper order. With the end in mind. The end represents the purpose of life. These parents accepct the dreams and challenges of raising respectful children. Parenting with the end in mind is intentional, not accidental. Looks to God for instruction. Keeps their promises.

-Adapted from Jill Rigby's "Raising Respectful Children"

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Well, I am still not sure where I am with all of this. Elazar and I are still working out things, as far as Subria is concerned. I do know that we are learning how to set the goals on the whole training thing.

The big issues we are focusing on right now, is not being Mean. Things like hitting, pushing, biting, and etc. And the general Obedience. And the potty training, still :)