~Reality Check~

The Character-Centered Parents' Priority List

God

Husband/Wife

Children

Others

Self

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Character-centered parents put God first, then their marriage, children, others, and finally themselves.

We all have our priorities, whether we're conscious of them or not. The decisions you make reveal your priorities. The consequences of your decisions either bring the devastation or preservation of your family.

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Reality Check

What category of parenting best describes you?

• Parent-Centered? - Intense need for their children to be perfect. Often persist in pushing their children to be number one. As a result their parenting choices are not about helping their children become all they are meant to be, but about filing the parent's own need for recognition.

• Child-Centered? - Children in a child-centered home are allowed to make decisions their parents should be making, the parents being more concerned with their children's approval than their well-being. Child-centered parents often get caught in the indulgence trap: you give your children enough and expect them to appreciate all you have done, in return being wonderful and respectful children, because you satisfied their desires. The trap will leave you and your children drained and emptied.

• Character-Centered? - The parents have their priorities in proper order. With the end in mind. The end represents the purpose of life. These parents accepct the dreams and challenges of raising respectful children. Parenting with the end in mind is intentional, not accidental. Looks to God for instruction. Keeps their promises.

-Adapted from Jill Rigby's "Raising Respectful Children"

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Well, I am still not sure where I am with all of this. Elazar and I are still working out things, as far as Subria is concerned. I do know that we are learning how to set the goals on the whole training thing.

The big issues we are focusing on right now, is not being Mean. Things like hitting, pushing, biting, and etc. And the general Obedience. And the potty training, still :)